Self-Esteem-Confidence-Happiness

⬅️ Back to 60.12 Self-Improvement · Sisters: 🏛️ Stoicism · Mindfulness-Attention · Communication

Related notes

• Identity · Depression · Distorted Automatic Thoughts · Addiction
• Key books: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem · The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck · The Happiness Hypothesis · Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life · Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway · Stumbling on Happiness
• The Stoic angle → Ego · People's Reactions · Fear & Anxiety
• Cross-vault → Self-Esteem quotes · Happiness quotes · Positivity quotes · Fear quotes

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• Since struggle is unavoidable, you need to find a struggle that’s right for you. Find out What to Give a Fuck About!

• When you choose your problems, you’re empowered.

• Desire for more positive experiences is itself a negative experience. And paradoxically the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.

• Negative emotions are a call to action

• Positive emotions are a reward for taking action

• Action → Inspiration → Motivation

• Narrowing of freedom; rejection of alternatives = freedom

• Rejection makes your life better

  • If you reject nothing; your have no identity
  • We are defined about what we choose to object
  • The desire to avoid rejection at all costs, to avoid confrontation and conflict, the desire to accept everything equally and make everything harmonize, is a deep and subtle form of entitlement. Value-less life.

• Happiness Hypothesis

  1. Know Thyself
  2. Strengthen your body & mind
  3. Strengthen your relations
  4. Make work loveable
  5. Go beyond yourself

• With great responsibility; comes great power

• Stop striving for immortality

• What is required for many of us, paradoxical though it may sound, is the courage to tolerate happiness without self-sabotage.

• The more energy you put into trying to control your thoughts, the more your thoughts end up controlling you.

• Tranquility → Fragility

• Embrace Randomness

• Mentally preparing & adjusting to the worst income > Fear of success/loss

• The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

  1. Living Consciously
  2. Self-Acceptance
  3. Self-Responsibility
  4. Self-Assertiveness
  5. Living Purposefully
  6. Personal Integrity

The desire for safety stands against every great and noble enterprise. -Tactitus

• “When you think you’re done, you’re only at forty percent of what your body is capable of doing. That’s just the limit that we put on ourselves.”